Dark & Stormy Feels in Brighton

Dark and stormy shoot, with a touch of sleek glamour; a different take on the bohemian trend

A different vibe for todays styled shoot…dark and stormy with a touch of sleek glamour, whilst still embracing some of the hallmarks of the bohemian trend; beautiful, abundant florals, gorgeous styling and oodles of special little touches.

Led by Emily Dall, a florist based in the UK, the shoot took place at the moody, emotive pub, The Pond in Brighton and incorporated a stellar lineup including the uber talented Bunston Bakes and Wed in The Wild favourites, Lo & Behold Bespoke.  We absolutely LOVE it!

Emily explains more…

“Our Dark & Stormy shoot is the achingly beautiful bohemian marriage of darkness with romance. A love which almost certainly began on a brooding autumn day and which is so overpowering that you could describe yourself as ‘utterly intoxicated’ with your partner.”

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Emily chose the rich colours of teal & burgundy to offer alternative autumnal hues and provide a contrast with both the fluttering candlelight & the stunning ivory Ossie Clark-inspired dress.

” As an autumn lover, I have always adored a brooding, dark colour palette and I thrive on cinematic styling & drama. As a result, I would say there was certainly a subtle combination of inspiration from the album The Bride by Bat for Lashes, my lifelong love of Wuthering Heights (the ultimate moody & windswept romance on the moors!) and the Instagram feed of Susie Bick, Nick Cave’s wife.

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Shooting an autumnal wedding in June wasn’t not easy but the team were ‘blessed’ with a moody weather forecast on the day which was ideal…no sunlight pouring through the windows to pull the tone away from the mood the team wanted to portray.

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As always, we love to ask about the submitter about their favourite aspect of the shoots and for Emily, it was a hard choice (and we can see why).

“The tablescape came together just as I hoped it would, with the huge peonies & wild roses perfectly interlacing the elegantly ornate brass candlesticks, but when Ami from Lo & Behold hung the hand-painted banner on the wall behind it was just the cherry on top! Receiving those images back from Paloma made my heart sing. Also, if I may mention one other aspect, Arabella went to the trouble of mixing a bespoke lip colour on the day of the shoot to match the rich burgundy colour of the peonies. This attention to detail is everything I adore in wedding design & styling.”

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Supplier Love

Photographer | Photography By Paloma

Stationery & Styling | Lo & Behold Bespoke

Flowers | Emily Dall Flowers

Dress | Hope & Harlequin

Florist | Bear Claw Catering

Cake | Bunston Bakes

HMUA | Arabella Hewitt

Venue | The Pond

 

 

The Stars Inside on Wedding Budgets

Valentina from The Stars Inside talks wedding budgets and the myths surrounding what you are spending,

Planning a wedding is no small feat. And working out and sticking to a budget is just one of the ways wedding planning can overwhelm you. Here at Wed in The Wild, we are committed to offering the truth behind setting wedding budgets. Before we delve closer into each aspect of wedding budgeting, Valentina from The Stars Inside offers her top five tips for working out and setting your wedding budget.

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Helping her couples set, manage, and understand their budget is something that Valentina considers a key part of her role as a wedding planner. As a professional in an industry where there isn’t always a lot of transparency about fees, the widely repeated fact that weddings suffer an arbitrary surcharge is actually a myth (see Valentina’s interesting delve into such myths here). It’s very important to educate people about what they’re really paying for. 

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For Valentina, having a positive relationship with your wedding budget means considering it with care, attention and honesty from the very beginning. Here are Valentina’s top five tips for mindful budgeting…

Start somewhere firm

“Have an open discussion together about how much you want to spend on your wedding overall, in light of savings, houses, family commitments, and all the other wonderful things that will make up your future as a married couple. If you’re planning on saving for the wedding, do consider whether it will significantly affect your quality of life in the meantime – as this can cause wedding planning memories to be tarred by resentment or regret.”

“When brainstorming on this, please hold tight to the thought that there isn’t an amount you’re supposed to spend, and there’s most certainly nothing you have to do. Also, think about whether any other parties might want to contribute to the wedding (like parents or grandparents), and what this might mean – is it just a gift, or does it come at the cost of having to run decisions by them? Either is fine, just make sure you’re all on the same page from the very beginning. If you can, try to converge all the wedding money into one account, so you can more easily keep track of ins and outs.”

Empty your thoughts onto a spreadsheet

“I would recommend creating (or downloading) a comprehensive budget breakdown spreadsheet, where each row is an element of your wedding (like flowers, entertainment, stationery, and so on) and the columns alongside it are percentages or totals. You can set expected amounts, actual amounts, and keep track of the difference. This is a tricky one to do precisely unless you have experience in the events industry or are working with a planner, because you simply won’t know exactly how much everything costs yet. But that’s ok – the key thing here is to use this exercise to decide on your priorities.”

“Highlight them, bold them, and start by apportioning larger chunks of the budget to them. Really think about where your guests are going to divert their time and attention, and whether there are other areas where you’re happy to cut back on costs. This will help you keep sight of the things that really matter as planning continues. The spreadsheet is your accountability buddy – and your peace of mind. Once you know where the money is going, it can turn budget management from a chore to an exciting part of your planning!”

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Channel your inner Sherlock Holmes

Be thorough and methodical when it comes to shopping around and doing your research. Ask for quotes from a couple of different suppliers of the style you’re looking for, and really get to know how much what you’ve asked for is worth – you may have to rethink your brief, or make some compromises elsewhere. Also, there is nothing worse than feeling like you’re losing control of your budget because of hidden costs that feel unfair or unexpected, especially if contracts have already been signed.

Make sure you ask about things like: VAT & service charges, overtime beyond agreed hire hours, corkage, clean-up & break-down costs, fees for bringing in non-approved suppliers, commission, alterations and trial fees, additional charges for hosting ceremonies, supplier meals/expenses/accommodation, and postage and delivery. Asking lots of questions and fully itemised quotes from all of your suppliers is definitely not something you should feel guilty about, and is very good practice. The more educated you are, the more you can have a respectful, professional, and productive conversation with your vendors.

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Stay flexible and open-minded

If the budget you’ve set is strict, definitely don’t let that make you feel inadequate or sad. Stand your ground and be open to finding creative solutions to make that budget viable. For example, something as simple as looking outside of peak summer season, or at weekdays instead of weekends, can alter the fees dramatically, and bring a venue or a supplier well into your budget.

Another very effective decision is changing the scale – a 60-guest wedding will give you much more room to breathe on budget than a 120-guest wedding, due to the way everything scales up per guest. By staying flexible, you can let your florist offer you less expensive seasonal options – you can let your caterer suggest less formal dining ideas – and just generally let your suppliers help you find the best alternative. 

Be you

When emotions (and expenses) are running high, it’s really difficult to feel grounded and positive, and I think the secret is to keep your finger on the pulse of your WHY. If your priority is making sure guests have the party of a lifetime, then focus your budget on the things that will make a direct difference to that – and when that money is being spent, remind yourself that it was your choice, and, though it feels intangible until the wedding day comes, that the experience of the day will be so much larger than the sum of its parts.

You have to close doors at some point because, unless you have an unlimited budget, you can’t do it all. But the doors you’ve chosen to keep open will make this day as awesome and unique as you.

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If you’d like to have a chat with Valentina, or would like some help with planning your wedding, don’t hesitate to get in touch!

Photography | Nataly J Photography

Stylist | The Stars Inside

Seasonal Flowers: Considerations From The Experts

Seasonality and wedding flowers. Here’s some advice and considerations from the experts!

When it comes to choosing wedding flowers, seasonality isn’t always something which is considered. For many of us Pinterest and to some extent, Instagram, often conjure up multitudes of imagery which doesn’t truly illustrate which flowers are available in which season.  

Now here at Wed in The Wild we absolutely adore flowers…but we are no experts! However, we do have lots of super talented florist friends who are completely passionate about growing their own blooms and recommending the best in season florals to their lovely brides and grooms.

So what is ‘seasonality’? Well, it’s essentially what is in flower at different points of the year. We likely all know sunflowers appear in the summer, and that mistletoe makes an appearance in winter…but how much do we really understand the workings of our natural world?

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When it comes to seasonality Patrick, from the Country Garden Flower Company based in Essex, UK,  explains that some of his clients are keen gardeners or have experience with their parents or grandparents gardens and as such, have a general knowledge of what may or may not be available at a certain time of year. However, he goes on to explain that with “the average person being exposed to every flower, nearly, at more or less all year through in supermarkets/conventional florist shops, you cant really expect folk to know exactly whats in season”.

Living in a world where we can access most things we want, whenever we want, Morgan Howells from Fleur.ish (California, USA) explains that most of her customers are “not entirely informed as to whether or not their first pick flowers are in season”. It is her job, as with many other florists, to explain what flowers are in season and give possible substitutions that will be in season at the time of their clients event.

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Caroline, of Fleur Provocateur (Somerset/Dorset, UK), encourages her clients to look out of their windows, and their car windows, a year before their weddings so that they understand what is naturally on offer; berries in the hedgerows, leaves on the ground, roses in gardens.

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So, we guess it’s not always easy to tell when a particular bloom is in season?

Allison Schreck of Bramble Floral Design (Oregon, USA) explains that to the untrained eye, it is super tough to tell what season a bouquet or installation is from, especially when there are so many parameters…different counties, states, countries and continents all have different growing cycles so sometimes, it is really impossible to tell.

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For Patrick, who grows and cuts all his own flowers, online planning tools have made it all the more difficult to manage client expectations. He goes on to explain that whilst a great tool for showcasing a couples leanings on general styling, “Pinterest descriptions are only as good as the person who uploads and has labelled the picture’. What Pinterest doesn’t account for is arrangements created by florists that have free access to blooms with season stretched availability, rather than what is naturally available to florists utilising their own homegrown blooms.

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Equally, Caroline goes on to say that Pinterest needs to be taken with a pinch of salt. It’s an “absolutely fantastic place to start for inspiration, but couples need to remember they are shopping without a price tag, and the many of photos are taken from styled shoots”. Pinterest has no seasonality reference point, and this is the role of your florist. 

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It is so refreshing to hear the views of four very talented people who are so passionate about seasonality and so welcome to sharing their knowledge with their clients for the best possible outcome. To leave you with some parting comments, we asked each florist why they are so passionate about seasonality…

“My clients love a natural, elegant, slightly wild feel…they love Oregon and the PNW. The best way to honor those loves and to best showcase them is through seasonality! And also, because it enables me to buy local – supporting local, using things out of my garden, and avoiding crazy elaborate shipping situations.” Allison

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“I love that the seasonality of flowers is constantly giving us designers a new pallette to create with! Mother Nature is a miracle and I am always looking forward to what beautiful bounty she has for me every week at the flower market. Flowers make people smile, feel loved, feel appreciated, feel special…I love that I get to share that with the world!” Morgan

“As a passionate gardener, using seasonal flowers is more appropriate and best! In the future when a bride looks at her photos, you should be able to tell what time of year the wedding was held, from looking at the flowers.” Caroline

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And the one that gets us every time…because, you know, we need to look after the bees!

“When you use seasonal flowers you are getting the best blooms that are flowering in their natural, unforced, time. When you get to grow and use these guys to bring to life some ones special day there is nothing better. A flower doing what its supposed to do, with added bonuses, usually scent. This is too often missing from forced imported counterparts but how much does this add to any flower. Another bonus is knowing just how many pollinators you’ve helped along the way; the garden is alive with bees and butterflies throughout Spring to Autumn. We even have neighbours that have taken up keeping bees knowing they will get well fed!” Patrick

Supplier Profiles:

Patrick – The Country Garden Flower Company (Essex, UK). Specialises in providing home grown and other British seasonal flowers to brides and and party throwers for their special days. Pushes design styles and concepts just that little bit further using flowers combined with a whole host of other materials in a wild but beautiful way – always up for a challenge!!

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Morgan – Fleur.ish (California, USA). Has been in the industry for 25 years, and just as passionate about floral design today as she was when she was 15. She is as eclectic in life as she is in design, and she loves to create the unexpected, nay, the impossible! Her company thrives on our commitment to create happiness and cultivate kindness. “Floral Design with Humanity in Mind”  and they will take any opportunity to be good humans.

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Allison – Bramble Floral Design (Oregon, USA). Values sustainable, low environmental impact practices. She cares about making your flowers feel like a part of the setting, like they’ve always been there and they belong there. She sees wedding flowers as the element that ties everything together and makes the whole wedding feel the way you want it to.

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Caroline – Fleur Provocateur (Somerset/Dorset, UK). Established ten years ago as a leading flower design company in the South-West. Passionate about flowers, inspired by the countryside, and lead by professional design backgrounds.

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Featured image by Greg Coltman Photography